The Lonely, Complicated and the Miserable!

As a writer, I've come to develop a community of lonely and complicated people in my stories. Possibly a mirror image of the people I connect with in my own life. It makes me think of my tag line when advertising my blog  site, "Come connect with me!"  How often do we connect with the people in our own lives?  What are our relationships really built on, loyalty, jealousy or deceit? What affect have we truly made on each other, are we held up to a different standard than the next person.  Am I valued for being a better person, due to my religious beliefs, or political views? Or, better yet...have I befriended a person solely based on their values or point of view?

In the past few weeks or so, I've come to ask myself these personal questions. I say personal, because their's a chance you may not like the answer to some of the questions provided. Honestly, it made me think differently. I realized how empty or lonely one can become, without personal enjoyment, life goals... guilty pleasures or challenges. Life becomes dull and uninspiring. Fortunately, for a writer even one's empty life may inspire the uninspired writer, in need of its perfect subject to dissect. Yes, it's true. I often find myself inspired by certain individuals and their unwillingness to connect, the loners and the complicated, who live miserable lives.  Who go on to impact the world with their misery and complexities. Recently, I found myself forced to connect with these people and it awakened an unusual tide of questions, more than the normal, agonizing with every thought!   "Why are you so angry?"...Why are you settling?" Why aren't you happy?" ....the list goes on and on. 

I find happiness in the smallest things. Welch's Real Fruit brings a smile to my face. The sun fighting the rain, brings joy to a weird day!  I’ll be the first to admit, bliss is not always a friend of mine. However, the difference is I fight for it, instead of engulfing myself in despair. 

Yet, miserable people with their miserable lives find it difficult to fall  into a positive abyss.  Impacting us all, within our families, and careers, schools or past times we run into these specific individuals. The characters' writer's like myself birth, mold and create only to subject them to awful and horrific experiences. They too, reside in this world inhaling and exhaling unpleasantries all while suffocating the rest of us with their unfortunate behavior and lack of consideration for the people they come to know.  

The question is how should we handle it? Should we choke on the bitterness that life sometimes reveals or forge ahead accepting that the Lonely, Complicated and Miserable will simply exist?                                                                                                                   


  1. I think negative minded people are important. There shouldn't be too many of course, but they help us remember that the world is not one happy rainbow because they'll tell it has to rain before a rainbow appears.

    It would of unimaginable cruelty if I didn't know about rain and my life would take a rainy turn. I think that negative minded people are important because they force us to think about what we don't want to imagine, but should sometimes think about nonetheless.

    I do find this is an interesting post. I didn't read anything else because the contrast between the background and the letters is too little and the letters are cursive. It makes reading too much a hassle for me. To be honest, I wouldn't even have bothered reading this post if your blog wasn't new. This is also why I write this.

  2. Hi!

    A tremendous thank you for sharing and following me inside the crazy world of the Emotional Woman. Truly Appreciate the comments you left in regard to the blog design-I really took it to heart and work:} On my computer I noticed it showed much differently than some others, so I will continue to improve it's design.

    As for the post... I have to agree with you, there shouldn't be too many! Often, I find that unfortunately it is more than I can bear at times. However, you make an excellent point! Negative people sometimes provide the motivation we need, to move forward, or get over certain hurdles in our life. There disdain for specific people or issues causes us to think a little harder, or view the world a little differently.

    Hopefully, you have the opportunity to review to some of my other post.

    Wishing you a Magnificent Day!

    J.R. Randle

    1. Well I guess the questions also is what one has to do, or be to deserve to be branded as a negative person. Negative from whose point of view? Many people I meet aren't so much negative as they are sceptic, but I'll certainly claim they're negative when they make the effort to present me their opinion.

      About the blog's layout. I don't know that much about design, I'm also not all too happy with my own layout. I do think that anything out of the ordinary has to be used with caution. Are you trying to sell content on your blog or do you want to awe people with how different/unique/beautiful your design is?

      Personally I'm convinced that less is more when it comes to colors or shades on a blog

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